I finished my Christmas shopping for my family about a week ago. I have wrapped it all. I feel very accomplished this year because in the past I was the person who braved the stores on Christmas Eve. I was very excited this year I had the kids do the lists early I started shopping but this year I feel very disconnected I feel like something is missing. I feel like the last min shopping and wrapping is a tradition. I enjoy everything about Christmas mostly because when I was little I never had a good Christmas and as a mother and wife I personally get to make sure they have an amazing Christmas The gift giving and shopping is the best part to me because even know Santa gets most of the credit I get to see there smiling faces and the pure joy they get from getting that one gift they wanted most. I think it means that much more to me because I never got to feel that joy.
I know that there are a lot of these going around everyone is making them. I wanted to make one a little different. I want to make a bucket list for my family to give back this holiday season and for us to find ways for us to spend more time as a family. I want our family time to be disconnected.(meaning with electronics and social media) I also want our family to learn the really meaning of the holidays.
Family winter bucket list!!!!
- Play in the snow ❄️
- Build a snowman☃️
- Enjoy a movie at least 1 night a week 📼🎅🏼
- Buy gifts to donate🎁
- Visit a wishing tree and fulfill some wishes
- Do something nice for someone else
- Bake some cookies for the fire department
- Make new memories
- Play board games
- Enjoy some hot chocolate
- Read some Christmas books📚
- Dance to some Christmas music🎶🎵🎄🎅🏼
- Be a secret Santa to a neighbor🎅🏼
- Decorate the Christmas tree 🎄
- Bake or make a fun new meal together
- Ride around and look at Christmas lights
- Take family Pictures📸
- Enjoy spending time together
I hope that as a family we can learn some new things. I hope we can learn more about each other. Most of all I hope my family reconnects. In the times that we are living in with so much on social media and everything geared around electronics I think we forget how to communicate. When did society forget how to have real conversations? How do we get back to really talking? I don’t want my little monsters to think this is how life should be. I want my family to have Holidays like when I was a kid with lots of family, yelling, fighting over who had the best gingerbread house or who gave the best gift. I want my Monsters to enjoy the holidays in real time not later when they look at there phones.
I am trying to teach my Daughter to be a strong confident women. In today’s world it is very hard because there are so many people in the world who are against strong confident women. People think that strong confident women are Bit**. I have always told my daughter she can do or be anything she wants. It seams like everyday she is coming home telling me about how girls at school are putting her down or talking about other girls. I understand this is something that happens. I want my daughter to lift up and empower others girls. How do I teacher her that? How do I explain I know all the other girls do one thing and I know that you want to fit in but you are better then that? Why don’t we have something implemented in schools to teach these kids to be better people? I know easier said then done. I also understand that we have to start at home but there is only so much I can teach. Our children are always going to act different when they are around there friends. Peer pressure is a real thing or the want and need to fit in. I guess I just have keep teaching and hoping for the best.
I am going to first say my family lives in the New England area!!! We have very cold unpredictable winters. My teenager Monster refuse to wear winter jackets it drives me nuts. My oldest Monster has even tried many times to wear shorts. We had to set a rule that he is only aloud to wear shorts on days it will be over 65 degrees. I asked my teenage Monster to please try on the jackets that I did buy to see if they still fit. they both told me “why we don’t wear them” I said ok do you need new hats a gloves. They both said “for what!” I could just scream I know that this is a teenage thing because I see all there friends doing the same things. All I could think about was them getting sick. This drives me insane. Am I the only Monster keeper who gets so frustrated with her teenagers about this? How do you get them to wear their winter coats? How long will this last?
How can you sit in the same room with your husband and feel like he doesn’t even see you? I know that my husband loves me but I feel like with everything going on with our monsters and work we forget. I feel like after you get married and the honeymoon period you can get all caught up in everything and forget to look at each other and really see the other person. I think you forget to put your marriage first sometimes. I just wonder how long can this go on before you forget all together? I know that being married is like having a job and you always have to work at it but how long can you work alone? I think husbands just assume that the wife should always be doing the work. Marriage is a 2 person job! How do you tell your husband he needs to put in the work too and having it come from a loving place? I love my husband very much but I am getting tired of working alone I just don’t see the point.
MORNING I am a stay at home mom like most other moms. My husband works 2 jobs (I know I might get hate I am only going to address this once for our family this is what works my husband has worked 2 jobs from the age of 18. we also have a medically complex special needs child so please keep your comments to yourself) My day starts like most others the alarm goes off at 5:45 am I snooze till 6am I wake up the 2 oldest monsters. (the youngest monster is already awake he is up at 5am lets be honest I am almost always up with him) I grab clothes for my youngest monster then head downstairs. I start to make lunches and make drinks. I also get everything ready for my sons feeding tube for the day. I fight with the teenage monsters about stuff like what do you want for lunch and ” hell no you are not walking out of the house in that.” I send the teenage monsters off at 6:32. The second part of my morning starts this is the hardest I have to fight with my youngest about getting dressed, putting shoes on, what he wants for lunch, and pick up all your toys. Then relief comes 7:45 the bus pulls in the driveway. I hug and kiss him and send him off. Coffee Coffee the most glorious part of my day LOL. I then start with my Mommy duties cleaning up the morning tornado, laundry, house chores, and figure out dinner. About 10am I start waking up my husband this could take anywhere from half and hour to and hour he is like having anther Monster LOL. Some mornings I make him breakfast most days it is lunch because he is not out of bed till lunch time. This is just my morning.
AFTERNOON. After my crazy morning the afternoon starts. The teenage monsters grace me with their presents about 2:10. My afternoon fight starts with things like snacks, homework, chores, phones, screen time, and playing that awful game fortnite(I hate this game) The youngest monster comes home anywhere from 3 to 3;30. I have to decide how my afternoon will go with him on how is day was somedays are very hard for him. On hard days I pick my battles with homework. Hard day are the worse for me because I never know what he is going to be like. Most days when he gets home he has snack then starts his homework and chores. When we finish homework we set a time limit with TV time or video games. When all the monsters are all done with their afternoon chores and homework they get there screen time this Mom has to start her afternoon chores cleaning out lunchboxes, filling dishwasher, then start dinner.
NIGHT I love night time because that is when the monsters talk to me about their days. I cook dinner and the monster talk to me. When dinner is over the monster help me clean up then we do our nighttime routine baths, teeth, and reading then bedtime. My husband will come home around 7 to 8 Saturday, Sunday, and Monday. Tuesday-Friday he will get home anywhere from 6 to 8. I always make him a plate he eats well I do the bedtime routine. When all the little monster are in bed my husband and I talk about our days and figure out the next day. Then it is relax time for us. Then finally Bedtime!!!!!!!!!!!!
My youngest monster came home telling me that he had a drill at school. I said “oh a fire drill” he said “ no a active shooter drill” I was taken back don’t get me wrong I know that in today’s sick scary world they need to have them. But I was watching my 7yr old tell me what he had to do “mommy I have to be very quiet we have to barricade ourselves against the wall and the teacher will lock the door” I was thinking what is this world coming to. I asked him do you have any questions he did “mommy how will you know where I am? How will you know that I am ok? How will you know this is happening?” He said “don’t worry it will not happen to me I am only in the second grade.” I then had to explain that it can happen to anyone in any grade and the school just wants you to know what to do if it does happen. I said it is ok to be scared of it does happen but please remember to be very quiet and listen to your teacher and always remember mommy and daddy love you very much. What else do you say? When my husband and I were kids we never had to deal with any of this. The only thing I can hope is that it never happens and if it does happen he will know what to do. His school has upgraded there systems and policy’s. I think it is very scary that when you send your child to school you have trust a system and policy’s.