I know this sound so cliché. This year I am choosing to do and be better!!!!!! I want to make small achievable goals because I have learned that when you make large unachievable goals you set yourself up to FAIL. This also sets you up to hate yourself!! I like everyone else want better. I want to be a better wife, mother to those amazing monsters, sister, and just to be a better ME because without choosing me I can’t be better at theses other things.
Our new family tradition was an amazing idea. The little monsters loved every second of it. They loved swimming on Christmas morning. My husband and I loved that we could stop and enjoy “our family time.” I loved that we had no expectations. I loved that I could enjoy watching my little monsters open there gifts and enjoy without having to go anywhere. We enjoyed that there was no rushing around anywhere. The little monsters loved that there didn’t have to get all dressed up. I loved that I didn’t have to play fake nice. I loved that I didn’t have to rush around anywhere. I know that the holiday season is about being with family but when did it become a game of playing fake nice and who’s kids are better or who spent the most money? I enjoy my family most of the time but I just wanted to enjoy my holiday with “my family” is that wrong? Why and when did family time become like having a job? My husband and I agreed that this will be something we do as a new tradition.
This year our family made a choice to have our holiday in a hotel. My husband and I talked about this for a long time before we decided. My husband works very hard all year and does not spend very much time with us. Our 2 oldest monster are from my previous relationship that we have to split our holidays with their dad. This year was our year so that made the choice that much easier. We wanted to have a family holiday uninterrupted. Don’t get me wrong we love our family but we also wanted to be a little selfish and spend time with just us and our little monsters. When we talked to the little monsters they love the idea. The little monster were very excited to plan everything from where we were going to stay to what we were going to do. Watching them get so excited about getting to have time with us and daddy not working is worth every penny and all the crap family has given us. To be continued!!!!!!!!!!
I finished my Christmas shopping for my family about a week ago. I have wrapped it all. I feel very accomplished this year because in the past I was the person who braved the stores on Christmas Eve. I was very excited this year I had the kids do the lists early I started shopping but this year I feel very disconnected I feel like something is missing. I feel like the last min shopping and wrapping is a tradition. I enjoy everything about Christmas mostly because when I was little I never had a good Christmas and as a mother and wife I personally get to make sure they have an amazing Christmas The gift giving and shopping is the best part to me because even know Santa gets most of the credit I get to see there smiling faces and the pure joy they get from getting that one gift they wanted most. I think it means that much more to me because I never got to feel that joy.
I know that there are a lot of these going around everyone is making them. I wanted to make one a little different. I want to make a bucket list for my family to give back this holiday season and for us to find ways for us to spend more time as a family. I want our family time to be disconnected.(meaning with electronics and social media) I also want our family to learn the really meaning of the holidays.
Family winter bucket list!!!!
Play in the snow ❄️
Build a snowman☃️
Enjoy a movie at least 1 night a week 📼🎅🏼
Buy gifts to donate🎁
Visit a wishing tree and fulfill some wishes
Do something nice for someone else
Bake some cookies for the fire department
Make new memories
Play board games
Enjoy some hot chocolate
Read some Christmas books📚
Dance to some Christmas music🎶🎵🎄🎅🏼
Be a secret Santa to a neighbor🎅🏼
Decorate the Christmas tree 🎄
Bake or make a fun new meal together
Ride around and look at Christmas lights
Take family Pictures📸
Enjoy spending time together
I hope that as a family we can learn some new things. I hope we can learn more about each other. Most of all I hope my family reconnects. In the times that we are living in with so much on social media and everything geared around electronics I think we forget how to communicate. When did society forget how to have real conversations? How do we get back to really talking? I don’t want my little monsters to think this is how life should be. I want my family to have Holidays like when I was a kid with lots of family, yelling, fighting over who had the best gingerbread house or who gave the best gift. I want my Monsters to enjoy the holidays in real time not later when they look at there phones.
I am trying to teach my Daughter to be a strong confident women. In today’s world it is very hard because there are so many people in the world who are against strong confident women. People think that strong confident women are Bit**. I have always told my daughter she can do or be anything she wants. It seams like everyday she is coming home telling me about how girls at school are putting her down or talking about other girls. I understand this is something that happens. I want my daughter to lift up and empower others girls. How do I teacher her that? How do I explain I know all the other girls do one thing and I know that you want to fit in but you are better then that? Why don’t we have something implemented in schools to teach these kids to be better people? I know easier said then done. I also understand that we have to start at home but there is only so much I can teach. Our children are always going to act different when they are around there friends. Peer pressure is a real thing or the want and need to fit in. I guess I just have keep teaching and hoping for the best.
I am going to first say my family lives in the New England area!!! We have very cold unpredictable winters. My teenager Monster refuse to wear winter jackets it drives me nuts. My oldest Monster has even tried many times to wear shorts. We had to set a rule that he is only aloud to wear shorts on days it will be over 65 degrees. I asked my teenage Monster to please try on the jackets that I did buy to see if they still fit. they both told me “why we don’t wear them” I said ok do you need new hats a gloves. They both said “for what!” I could just scream I know that this is a teenage thing because I see all there friends doing the same things. All I could think about was them getting sick. This drives me insane. Am I the only Monster keeper who gets so frustrated with her teenagers about this? How do you get them to wear their winter coats? How long will this last?