My little monsters are living a fantasy world!!!!!!!! My little monsters have no idea!!! They think everything should be handed to them. I asked my oldest teenage monster to make his little brothers bed.(his brother is 7 and has special needs) He the proceeded to tell me that I don’t sleep in it why do I have to make it. I said “well I don’t dirty all the laundry and dishes but I still have to wash them” to which replayed “that is your job right” I could have spit nails this little monster has no idea what it is like and believe me we are trying to teach him how to be an adult. When he is told to do chores he always tells my husband and I we are awful parents because none of his friend have chores. Is this a thing? I have always had chores. My little monsters don’t have as many chores as I had at there age. The 14yr old monster has to clean 2 toilets and sweep a kitchen floor and keep room clean. When I was his age was cleaning the whole house. This little monster has no idea. So here is my question why do kids theses days think they don’t have to do chores or contribute in anyway to the house? Why do they think because there mom stays home I should be doing everything? We are creating lazy in-tilted monsters. I am worried about his age group as a whole!!!!
I started this year off like almost everyone I want to loose weight be a better person love more read more all of theses things. This year I made a hard resolution for myself believe me I know how easy this is going to sound to most people but when you are a stay at home mom this is hard to do. I made the resolution to get dressed do my makeup and hair everyday no matter what. Today I am 13 days 2 colds sick kids home flu going around and I have been doing it. Every day since Jan 1 2020 I dressed and I have done simply makeup and hair. I get that this seams easy and some are thinking OMG she is a lazy slob. when you are a stay at home mom and a 1 car family you can get into ruts last year most days I put my youngest monster on the bus in my pjs most days I had no reason to get dressed where was I going what was I doing. When I think back to last year this my be the reason why I was unhappy with myself. SO this year I made a promise to myself that I would take better care of myself. I wanted to do this for myself. My little monsters and husband have told me that they noticed a difference they said I seem happier!!!
I know this sound so cliché. This year I am choosing to do and be better!!!!!! I want to make small achievable goals because I have learned that when you make large unachievable goals you set yourself up to FAIL. This also sets you up to hate yourself!! I like everyone else want better. I want to be a better wife, mother to those amazing monsters, sister, and just to be a better ME because without choosing me I can’t be better at theses other things.
HERES TO A GREAT YEAR!!!!!!!!!
Our new family tradition was an amazing idea. The little monsters loved every second of it. They loved swimming on Christmas morning. My husband and I loved that we could stop and enjoy “our family time.” I loved that we had no expectations. I loved that I could enjoy watching my little monsters open there gifts and enjoy without having to go anywhere. We enjoyed that there was no rushing around anywhere. The little monsters loved that there didn’t have to get all dressed up. I loved that I didn’t have to play fake nice. I loved that I didn’t have to rush around anywhere. I know that the holiday season is about being with family but when did it become a game of playing fake nice and who’s kids are better or who spent the most money? I enjoy my family most of the time but I just wanted to enjoy my holiday with “my family” is that wrong? Why and when did family time become like having a job? My husband and I agreed that this will be something we do as a new tradition.
This year our family made a choice to have our holiday in a hotel. My husband and I talked about this for a long time before we decided. My husband works very hard all year and does not spend very much time with us. Our 2 oldest monster are from my previous relationship that we have to split our holidays with their dad. This year was our year so that made the choice that much easier. We wanted to have a family holiday uninterrupted. Don’t get me wrong we love our family but we also wanted to be a little selfish and spend time with just us and our little monsters. When we talked to the little monsters they love the idea. The little monster were very excited to plan everything from where we were going to stay to what we were going to do. Watching them get so excited about getting to have time with us and daddy not working is worth every penny and all the crap family has given us. To be continued!!!!!!!!!!
I finished my Christmas shopping for my family about a week ago. I have wrapped it all. I feel very accomplished this year because in the past I was the person who braved the stores on Christmas Eve. I was very excited this year I had the kids do the lists early I started shopping but this year I feel very disconnected I feel like something is missing. I feel like the last min shopping and wrapping is a tradition. I enjoy everything about Christmas mostly because when I was little I never had a good Christmas and as a mother and wife I personally get to make sure they have an amazing Christmas The gift giving and shopping is the best part to me because even know Santa gets most of the credit I get to see there smiling faces and the pure joy they get from getting that one gift they wanted most. I think it means that much more to me because I never got to feel that joy.
I know that there are a lot of these going around everyone is making them. I wanted to make one a little different. I want to make a bucket list for my family to give back this holiday season and for us to find ways for us to spend more time as a family. I want our family time to be disconnected.(meaning with electronics and social media) I also want our family to learn the really meaning of the holidays.
Family winter bucket list!!!!
- Play in the snow ❄️
- Build a snowman☃️
- Enjoy a movie at least 1 night a week 📼🎅🏼
- Buy gifts to donate🎁
- Visit a wishing tree and fulfill some wishes
- Do something nice for someone else
- Bake some cookies for the fire department
- Make new memories
- Play board games
- Enjoy some hot chocolate
- Read some Christmas books📚
- Dance to some Christmas music🎶🎵🎄🎅🏼
- Be a secret Santa to a neighbor🎅🏼
- Decorate the Christmas tree 🎄
- Bake or make a fun new meal together
- Ride around and look at Christmas lights
- Take family Pictures📸
- Enjoy spending time together
I hope that as a family we can learn some new things. I hope we can learn more about each other. Most of all I hope my family reconnects. In the times that we are living in with so much on social media and everything geared around electronics I think we forget how to communicate. When did society forget how to have real conversations? How do we get back to really talking? I don’t want my little monsters to think this is how life should be. I want my family to have Holidays like when I was a kid with lots of family, yelling, fighting over who had the best gingerbread house or who gave the best gift. I want my Monsters to enjoy the holidays in real time not later when they look at there phones.
How can you sit in the same room with your husband and feel like he doesn’t even see you? I know that my husband loves me but I feel like with everything going on with our monsters and work we forget. I feel like after you get married and the honeymoon period you can get all caught up in everything and forget to look at each other and really see the other person. I think you forget to put your marriage first sometimes. I just wonder how long can this go on before you forget all together? I know that being married is like having a job and you always have to work at it but how long can you work alone? I think husbands just assume that the wife should always be doing the work. Marriage is a 2 person job! How do you tell your husband he needs to put in the work too and having it come from a loving place? I love my husband very much but I am getting tired of working alone I just don’t see the point.
MORNING I am a stay at home mom like most other moms. My husband works 2 jobs (I know I might get hate I am only going to address this once for our family this is what works my husband has worked 2 jobs from the age of 18. we also have a medically complex special needs child so please keep your comments to yourself) My day starts like most others the alarm goes off at 5:45 am I snooze till 6am I wake up the 2 oldest monsters. (the youngest monster is already awake he is up at 5am lets be honest I am almost always up with him) I grab clothes for my youngest monster then head downstairs. I start to make lunches and make drinks. I also get everything ready for my sons feeding tube for the day. I fight with the teenage monsters about stuff like what do you want for lunch and ” hell no you are not walking out of the house in that.” I send the teenage monsters off at 6:32. The second part of my morning starts this is the hardest I have to fight with my youngest about getting dressed, putting shoes on, what he wants for lunch, and pick up all your toys. Then relief comes 7:45 the bus pulls in the driveway. I hug and kiss him and send him off. Coffee Coffee the most glorious part of my day LOL. I then start with my Mommy duties cleaning up the morning tornado, laundry, house chores, and figure out dinner. About 10am I start waking up my husband this could take anywhere from half and hour to and hour he is like having anther Monster LOL. Some mornings I make him breakfast most days it is lunch because he is not out of bed till lunch time. This is just my morning.
AFTERNOON. After my crazy morning the afternoon starts. The teenage monsters grace me with their presents about 2:10. My afternoon fight starts with things like snacks, homework, chores, phones, screen time, and playing that awful game fortnite(I hate this game) The youngest monster comes home anywhere from 3 to 3;30. I have to decide how my afternoon will go with him on how is day was somedays are very hard for him. On hard days I pick my battles with homework. Hard day are the worse for me because I never know what he is going to be like. Most days when he gets home he has snack then starts his homework and chores. When we finish homework we set a time limit with TV time or video games. When all the monsters are all done with their afternoon chores and homework they get there screen time this Mom has to start her afternoon chores cleaning out lunchboxes, filling dishwasher, then start dinner.
NIGHT I love night time because that is when the monsters talk to me about their days. I cook dinner and the monster talk to me. When dinner is over the monster help me clean up then we do our nighttime routine baths, teeth, and reading then bedtime. My husband will come home around 7 to 8 Saturday, Sunday, and Monday. Tuesday-Friday he will get home anywhere from 6 to 8. I always make him a plate he eats well I do the bedtime routine. When all the little monster are in bed my husband and I talk about our days and figure out the next day. Then it is relax time for us. Then finally Bedtime!!!!!!!!!!!!
I want to start by saying I am one of those crazy people who loves Christmas. I listen to Christmas music and watch Christmas movies way to early😀 I wanted to see how other people feel because my husband thinks I am nuts he hates that I like to start planning early. I start planning around the time the kids start back to school. As you know I have 3 little Monsters 2 of them are teenagers so the the Christmas lists are ridiculous. My husband and I set limits but I think you have to set limits that are age appropriate. I am not going to spend the same amount on my 7yr old and 14yr old. When is the right time to start planning? Honestly with the gifts the kids ask for these days you have to start saving in March😂 I am a crazy Christmas person but I think somethings start to early like Christmas stuff in stores or stores having to be open on thanksgiving just so people can get a good deal on a TV. What about the people who have to work?